Surviving LDR (Long Distance Relationship)

(According to Me, by Me 😜)

I may not have mentioned on this platform yet, but YES, I am one of those fools who fervently signed up for the Long Distance Relationship.

To be honest, I never thought I will ever be in one (even doubted myself if I’ll ever be in a relationship in the first place. 😛 ) I have to say though, it is NO JOKE, as it requires some level of craziness, persistence and definitely not suited for the faint-hearted.

So I thought, why not list down My(Our?) ways or guide on SURVIVING LDR:

• Make DO Than Argue.
  Since it’s humanly impossible to outdo the distance & time difference, so why even try? I just think about the potential small compromises when I am already with my beau all the time. I fixate on things like being the boss of the remote control, watching romcom or cheesy TV shows, listening to OPM/Acoustic music, having junk food party in my mouth as much as I want, and more. I indulge myself as much now, with fewer considerations, and be guiltlessly happy about it.
• Quality Over Frequency.
  Contrary to what most other couples practice we don’t call each other every day. I(we) find that it works best for us when we skip updating the mundane unrelatable narratives of our daily boring life apart. By doing so, our conversations come (almost always) with excitement, doesn’t appear like it’s a chore or it’s obligatory to talk, but rather our interactions are candid and more sincere.
• Tease Me, Tease Me.
  ( Til I lose control… ohh) The brain is the central main organ and controls our human anatomy. Therefore, what ignites the cerebrum, translates into the entire body. This is where my naughty wits excel. Besides, nothing is “dirty” if it’s implied.
• Solidify The Timeline / Unify Goals.
  ( Because, if not, what’s the point?! ) It is very important that we share common goals and an agreement that long-distance set-up is only temporal. This gives us reason to look forward and keep going, despite the odds of being far from each other.
• Cast Jester As The Main Act.
  Humor makes everything light and fun. In our case, we try to inject humor even in our most pathetic moments of loneliness. We like to laugh at each other’s bloopers. We sure know that we are pretty serious about US, but we try not to take each other or our situation too seriously.

To sum it up, relationships are very personal. You define why you want it, what you want from it, or how you’d like to go about it. For me, what matters most is that you need to be in a secure sense of being, before even committing to someone, that way,  you avoid the needy tendency that suffocates and spoil what could’ve been a significant partnership. I am also still learning all these in the process. Of course, I have to give huge credit to my “Schatzi”, as what we have works because he makes the best half part of it.

P.S. When I asked the BF, why or what helps us survive? His reply : Vertrauen, Liebe und Geduld.

bis zum nächsten Mal! Tschüss!

Happy Easter!

God has risen! We’re all saved! 

Happy Easter people!

This entry will be messy with all the randomness I’d like to write down. First of all, this is probably the first time I am telling in this blog that I am in a relationship and I am super happy! The BF and I have been official for nearly two years now, braving the distance, time difference, and language barrier. Though we seemed to take it in quite cushy, it’s not all an easy feat.  I’ll be dedicating an entry specifically about us, next time. 🙂

In line with now, my love life, I am also learning the BF’s native language – Deutsch ( German ) and this has been causing me both frustration and inspiration. Imagine, the contradiction?! It’s inspiring because I never thought I’ll ever dare to learn a 3rd language and be really serious ( sometimes trying too hard and yet learning still quite not enough ) about it. Frustrating, because it is one of the craziest vernacular to get your older brain and tongue to adapt with. I mean, maybe if I was younger and I have been exposed to the language earlier, it wouldn’t feel so different. In which, again, from another perspective can be inspiring too,  because knowing you’re learning, no matter how dreadfully slow and tiny the progression is, it is an achievement itself, or at least, it is for me.

There’s been a lot of “adulting” stuff I’ve been working on recently, plus doing more OT at work, to hopefully increase my funds to cover my growing expenditures too, keeps me mostly occupied. Sounds so mature? haha!

I know I’ve said this every time, but I wish to spend more here writing often.

Easter is always igniting fresh start! May every day of our lives sparks a new beginning that excites us all and keeps on living always in God’s lead of great hope and love!

Tchuß!

What Do You Think?

halo! i’ve been wanting to go back to this page for the usual expression of my “thought farts”, but at the same time, i’m feeling bit of a pressure to do it regularly and make it more worthwhile, considering how open this platform is, would make me vulnerable to the scrutiny of the world wide web. (like i have tons of followers? or does anyone read this other than myself, whenever i feel extra self conscious how bad my grammar is/was/always)

so where/how do i begin, again?

how do i feel about the world today? at least the world i know, based on how it’s presented to me every day?

for sure, my day to day life, isn’t as exciting as most people would seize theirs, but who knows, by sharing my mundane alternations, once in a while, would make me hit some good thoughts to ponder.

i will try to revive this page and hopefully to keep it active on a regular basis.

if you happen to be reading this, please share your thoughts/suggestions. i could also use a little dare, by asking me what to write and share my opinions/ and probably my lack of knowledge about? i’d love you to spark me with ideas! help out my idle brain to work more creatively.

cheers!

p.s. i really missed doing this! 🙂

 

In Between Gigi and Mary

I am still that girl… who wouldnt exactly get “the rules” and will remain clueless if not dumb about dating.

The tell tales of subtle misfits. It ‘s getting tiring and draining my already depreciating optimism. You wanna feel okay about it, because at least it didnt consumed much of your time, but you’re also back to zero from almost reaching a quarter to counting one.

Oh yeah… patience, tell me about it again and again, like I’ve never heard it 2 decades back.

You wanna reassure yourself by telling what they’re missing, but is that really the case?

Someone told me, “You have to put youself out there.”  Must I take a braver(desperate) move to wear a “Sale” sign before i’m gone for salvaging?

Well, if you’ve watched “He’s Just Not That Into You”, you’d probably agree, I am both Gigi and Mary combined.

Hello There!!!

Oh yes! Surprisingly, i haven’t forgotten my password after not checking this page for the longest time. I so wanna go back to  using this as an outlet… and hopefully, I get to write as authentic, carefree and genuinely honest as possible, not minding too much about the prejudices and overanalyzing my thoughts (really?) which often ends up not being able to write anything, if not too vague, that I myself can’t decipher what I’ve been meaning to say.

Of course, i’ll be having my terrible grammar horror and lapses, but who cares? I guess, I’ve come to this age where I can just shrug off whatever?! Or at least pretend as if I didn’t feel a twinge and move on.

I came across with this sign which somehow translate my current state of mind :

This should work for my comeback! Cheers to us, bitch!  😉